WWYD?
First of all...I am looking for all opinions! I really need some advice. I'm expecting my son in under 2 months and am extremely excited. My 2 sons will be about 18months apart, so...I have most of the larger items I would need for this new addition already. I know that my family/friends would like to throw me a shower for this guy, but...is that necessary/proper? I mean, they are so close together that I just don't feel "right" accepting another shower when I have so much already. What options can you think of? Something my DH mentioned was having people go in on buying one (or 2) items for this baby. Or...what about diapers? I just don't want to be greedy, yet don't want to rob anyone of their blessing either. The lines are open, send your opinions my way!
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In my neck of the woods, it is in bad taste to have a shower for subsequent children. The exception being, a "Whoops" years after the first round of children are nearly grown, and the mom-to-be-again has gotten rid of all her baby things (as was the case for one of my best friends).
However, everyone gives gifts upon the birth of the subsequent children. It would be rude to show up to meet the new baby without a gift. I think your new little guy will get lots of gifts without an actual shower. But do whatever makes YOU comfortable.
Cute ribbon picture. Very colorful.
I have several friends in the same situation and what we did was have a diaper, wipes and fill the freezer shower. Also people sometimes have a "sip and see" after the baby is born to meet him and they often bring a gift then.
I say, if they want to throw a shower for you, let them. I have 3 kids, 2.5 yrs between each of them. DD#1 got 3 showers. DS got 1 shower. And DD 3 got 1 very simple (surprise, too yet!) shower by my closest friends. One friend did a tea party at her house. I did not solicit any of these showers. And they got progressively smaller with each kid, which was totally fine. It was thoughtful of the people who did come and give gifts to do so. If someone asks what you need, you could say diapers, if that is what you really need. I'm sure you'll get plenty of outfits, even though you have boy clothes, just b/c people can't resist cute little baby things! :)
You know what...each child deserves to be celebrated! Of course you won't get the big stuff like you did in the first but, for this second you can always ask for those cute things you never got with your first...just the "fun" stuff....nice outfits, cool toys, etc. Maybe you could have a nursery themed shower. If you have a certain theme and have not finished the nursery ( I never did for 3mths after each child! )...you could have everyone help out with that...new curtains, bedding, art, etc. If in the end you are uncomfortable with gifts like these suggest a "fill the freezer" party...everyone brings a dinner you can put in the freezer and be all stocked up for those first few days/weeks after the baby is born. Good luck and don't feel bad celebrating this new life that is about to enter your world!
I think that if they want to throw you a shower that it's fine. It would be different if you were asking someone to do it.
I like the diaper/wipe shower idea or people chipping in to get a bigger item or two for you, like a double stroller. Or, depending on where you live, there are places like the zoo that people could put in money for a family membership for.
I don't know about the shower - I think it would depend on if it were the same people throwing it. I had a shower for my 2nd child but it was a completely different group of people (from my DH work) who we didn't know when we had the first one. The 3rd one, was the "surprise after getting rid of all the stuff" and we could have used a shower then, but didn't have one (and we were just fine).
May I recommend a double stroller?? The one thing I should have bought when K3 was born, even though K2 was 4 at the time.
Best of luck with the baby! Can't wait till he gets here! What fun!
i think you should accept what you are comfortable with. my kids are SO close together that i would have loved a "fill the freezer" shower or diapers and wips. especially with the twins =) in the end it's for you--go with what you're ok with. oh, and i like the double stroller idea!
I would have loved a diaper/wipe shower. If someone wants to do it, I'd say let them.
For my second DS my friend hosted a meet the baby "shower" after he was born. But she had a really cutesy name for it of course. People brought small memory type gifts. Albums, first tooth holders, picture frames, banks, etc. I think it's important that when your kids look through their album the shower page is blank just because they didn't come first kwim?
We have baby showers at church for every baby, even when it's the 4th or 6th, or however many. One thing we've done with some of the showers is have a Book Shower where people can bring their favorite storybook. That way, all the kids can enjoy them, and have something to share with the new one.
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